One of the most important lessons I learned in life was to cut off toxic people, regardless of who they were and how close they had been. The main types of toxic people are the narcissist, the controller, the drama magnet, the energy vampire, the compulsive liar, and the self-victimizer who can't be happy for others. I didn't want any of them to be part of any of my circles. Some were family members, some were people I worked with, and some even called themselves my friends. These people are usually jealous, self-centered, and don't care about anyone else but themselves. They will lie to you, try to intimidate and bully you, and will isolate you from your loving circle so that you remain under their sway. I don't enjoy conflicts. But at certain moments, I knew I had to stand up for myself. Despite my kindness and forgiveness, some things wouldn't pass. After I was certified in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) for the second time, I got rid of the guilt-tripping I encountered and cut off these people from my life nonetheless. I still helped anyone who reached out to me. I just stopped crossing oceans for people who wouldn't jump over a puddle for me. Realizing that the people in my support system were amazing and stood by me against all odds also lead me to grasp the maturing lesson of becoming aware that, in some instances, I might have been toxic too. And it's not casting a judgment on someone to step away from negativity. It's a self-protecting mechanism to set clear boundaries.
Some quotes on toxic people:
Don't associate yourself with toxic people. It's better to be alone and love yourself than surrounded by people who make you hate yourself - Robin Williams
Toxic people will pollute everything around them. Don't hesitate. Fumigate - Mandy Hale
Let go of negative people. They only show up to share complaints, problems, disastrous stories, fear, and judgment of others. If somebody is looking for a bin to throw all their trash into, make sure it's not your mind - Dalai Lama
When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. The misinformation will feel unfair, but stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth, just like you did - Jill Blakeway
People inspire you or they drain you. Pick them wisely - Hans F. Hansen
Some people are in such utter darkness that they will burn you just to see a light. Try not to take it personally - Kamand Kojouri